Her chinky eyes were still small although her eye balls seemed to pop out.
“…then you should be married within six months, or else, you won’t get married until the next three years!”, she muttered in a teasing, yet threatening voice with a Konglish accent.
My quick response to what I’ve heard. It wasn’t because I can’t believe what she said; it was a typical auto-reply emphasizing surprise.
Beads of sweat dripped down my spine. Goosebumps all over, not because I was afraid or shocked; it seemed that the scorching spell of the sun heated up the room. The temperature rose.
We both laughed.
I laughed because it was my first time to hear the Korean wedding tradition: the lady who got the bouquet should be married within six months. She must keep the bouquet and burn it before getting married. If she won’t get married within six months, she can’t marry until the next three years, or worse, never.
We both laughed.
She laughed because I told her the reason why I don’t have a boyfriend yet. I might be exempted because in the first place, I don’t have a boyfriend to marry within six months. She laughed when she learned it wasn’t my first time to have the bride’s bouquet. She laughed, not to scorn me; she was quite entertained with the thought, I’ve been through a lot of weddings and yet I might end up being single for life.
“HAJIMA!” I thought to myself concerning spinsterhood. I wanna laugh harder.
It was fun sharing my wedding experiences to my college Korean student, the day after the wedding where I’ve got the bouquet; a reasonable excuse to be absent in our class.
Of Bouquets and Brooms
Korean wedding tradition is quite similar to the Filipino wedding tradition, especially in terms of the tossing of bride’s bouquet (or other counterpart bouquet activity). But with Filipinos’, there’s no time frame. The moment you got the bride’s bouquet, you’re either the teasing stock, or seemingly placed in a pressure cooker — “you’re definitely next in line!”
I’ve been through a lot of weddings. I have performed all the parts since I got involved in friend’s wedding. I’ve been a wedding co-planner, coordinator, an emcee, singer, usherette, bride’s maid, and maid of honor. To reminisce each wedding and the story behind it is simply nostalgic. But there’s still the cherry-on-top role that I haven’t experienced. Obviously, I need not mention it. Haha!
“Teacher Lanie, you should stop accepting wedding parts, or else, you will never get married…” a former colleague teasingly told me a year ago.
“Ah, another superstition”, I responded. I believe, I’ll have my own on God’s time (fingers crossed). “…But it’s my passion, I’m happy in sharing the honor and joy of taking part in friend’s weddings”, I continued.
March 25 & March 31, 2013 were the busiest and the most hilariously stress-less, meaningful and surprising days I had so far. Within the last week of March were the anticipated weddings of friends and family friends. So, I called it weddingful week.
On April 12, 2011, my childhood best friend, Jelome Selda-Manalu married a wonderful Indonesian guy, Apselu. It was one of my happiest days. This blog entry is also a token of appreciation for God’s blessings in her love life. Jubilant 2nd anniversary! More sweeter years 😀
I was supposed to catch her bouquet, but it’s not for me haha!
Life is indeed full of surprises. But in spite of vicissitudes of life, a choice to constantly hope and work out the faith;to love and be loved, will remain constant. It’s part of everyday nurturing especially in the garden of marriage life.
On April 25, 2010, I attended two weddings. My childhood friend, Eleonor Econar, married Joel Imperio earlier before another wedding. The same pastor officiated, Pastor Joe Orbe Jr. The venue was at Finster Hall of Nations, 1:00-3:00 PM. Never mind the change of attire and don’t imagine the ‘tarantaciousness’ (in-a-hurry preparation) haha! (Yellow dress to black dress).
“No matter what, no matter who, no matter when, any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet. He just needs the right broom.” ~Hitch
This is an excerpt from an article that I read from an FB post, ARE YOU THE RIGHT PARTNER?
“The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it is learning to love the person you found.”
“Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.”
“Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.”
“Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.”
A Vow to Bow
Mission First, Mate Second
I had mixed emotions when I got a text message from someone who called over the phone the other day. When he learned that I don’t have a boyfriend yet, he advised me to have one. He made me wonder when he said that he has a prospective one to suggest. It was just funny that coincidentally, I just got the bouquet on a wedding and told him most of friends teased me to be the next. I met him again after a year on the following wedding on the 31st of March. “What is this LORD?”, I pondered. I know what he shared in our conversation was full of inspiration and wisdom.
This is the reaction that I might have once I get to know who…get to know one day who has the right broom to sweep me off my feet; probably my reaction once I meet the one God has prepared on His appointed time.
As I wonder, I don’t want to wander. 🙂
* I’ll have PART 2 for this entry, will share about the wedding on March 31, 2013 and more of BROOM stuff.
© 2013 LAF
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